Understanding Trauma: Why You Can’t Just “Get Over It”

Many people who have experienced trauma find themselves wondering why they continue to struggle long after the traumatic event has ended. They may tell themselves they should be “over it by now” or feel frustrated that certain memories, emotions, or triggers continue to affect their daily lives.

The reality is that trauma changes the way the brain and body respond to perceived danger. Trauma is not a sign of weakness, and healing is not simply a matter of willpower.

What Is Trauma?

Trauma occurs when an event or series of events overwhelms a person’s ability to cope. While many people think of trauma as a single catastrophic event, trauma can take many forms, including:

• Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse
• Neglect during childhood
• Domestic violence
• Serious accidents or medical events
• Military combat
• Natural disasters
• Sudden loss of a loved one
• Chronic exposure to stress, fear, or instability

What feels traumatic to one person may not affect another person in the same way. Trauma is defined less by the event itself and more by how the experience impacts the individual.